I want to help him as much as I can! You have spent many years with this person, and whether your relationship was happy or not, you should fully grieve before moving on. Be inspired by these sentiments: Sometimes a lot. They helped me care for the children and establish new routines, and that forced me to carry on when I thought I couldn't. If for nothing other than to listen, validate and remind you that you are probably doing better than you think you are.
It may take them longer to be happy for you, but most will put on a brave face for you if you seem sure and happy.
How soon is too soon?
He states he thinks his grief took over and has pulled him into this depression. Lots of people in the online dating world — not just widowed folk — use virtual relationships to test the waters and to feel less lonely without having to actually get involved with people in real life. Write Dear Abby at http: Try to avoid a revolving door of dates where underage kids are concerned. Your message is probably pending approval but I wanted to reply to your comment.